Welcome to the HS Dating festive fix-up! From now until Christmas we’re giving you top tips to get your profile and dating prowess in top shape! Keep an eye on your inbox, as we could also be giving away some prizes…
The Christmas period is the perfect time to strike up some conversations so why not start now?! Don’t forget that your first message to any member that you have not contacted before is absolutely FREE! (If you need a helping hand before you start, you can read about our winning messaging formula below).
The Winning Dating Message Formula
1) Introduce yourself. Saying hello and telling someone your name instantly makes you look more approachable.
2) Compliment your match. Highlight what you like about your match’s profile or picture.
3) Tell them why you’re the perfect match. Read their profile and make sure you fit the bill. A great way to get their attention is to mention hobbies you have in common.
4) Ask an engaging question. This simple action makes sure the conversation continues and doesn’t stall. Ensure it’s an intriguing enquiry that’ll make your match want to write back.
We know you’re a sensible, worldly, head-screwed-on type, but we wanted to remind you of the golden rules that everyone should live by to make the internet as safe a place as possible. Follow these few simple check-points and you should have nothing to worry about…
Choose a password that you can easily remember but that would be difficult for anyone else to guess. Childrens’ names are easy, but just as easy for someone who knows you to guess!
We have a wonderful messaging system which means you don’t need to give out any contact information at all until you’re happy to, so don’t be afraid to tell someone that you’d rather stick to talking online for a bit longer. If they’re genuine then they won’t have a problem.
If anyone asks to borrow money or asks for any sort of financial details whatsoever, then alarm bells should start to ring. You wouldn’t expect someone you met in the pub last week to ask you for money, and you shouldn’t expect it online either.
The bottom line is that you should always stay in control. Meet in a public place, tell someone when and where you’re going, and arrange to call them at a given time to confirm all’s going well. If your date is worth their salt, they will completely understand.
Don’t Panic! 99.99% cool
The vast majority of people you meet online will be genuine people just like you who are simply looking for a date or friendship. Unfortunately, it’s best to plan for the worst and then allow people to prove themselves otherwise, but don’t let the occasional dodgy character spoil your enjoyment.
If you are however concerned by anything or any other member, do not hesitate to contact us and report what you are not comfortable about to us.
We’re always hearing from people who have had success on the site. Here are just a few of the messages we’ve had recently…
I just wanted to drop you a line to thank you for a BRILLIANT site. I’ve had such a blast meeting up with people over the last six months, but I’ve been seeing a guy called James for a few weeks now and we’ve decided to “give it a go”. Keep up the good work.
Thank you very much for all your help over the last few months. I’m now seeing a lovely lady from your site who was living just down the road from me all the time! Thanks for bringing us together. All the best.
I’m writing in to thank your team so very much for providing such a great place to meet people. I’ve actually been dating a guy from the site for a couple of months now and we’re moving in together this weekend (woohoo!). You rock!
Hi, can you please cancel my membership. After a thoroughly enjoyable year meeting some really interesting people, I’ve met a great girl from the site and I’m taking myself off the market! Thanks again ;o)
So there you have it – straight from the horse’s mouth. Be sure to let us know if and when you find what you’re looking for – we always love to hear more success stories.
There are some basic things we all take for granted. Being in love, falling out of love or even yearning for love is one of them. But for people suffering from a disorder called depersonalisation, feeling love may not be as straight forward as you think.
One of the that is bound to make this disorder even more distressing for sufferers is the fact that many health practitioners do not even know it exist. BBC has recently published a detailed article on this unusual disorder. Excerpts from the article follows:
For people living with depersonalisation disorder the world appears unreal, as if through a haze or fog – or even in 2D. One in 100 people is thought to have the condition, but experts are warning it is not included in any GP training.
“Relationships you know you value deeply lose their essential quality,” Sarah tells the BBC’s Victoria Derbyshire programme.
“You know you love your family, but you know it academically – rather than feeling it in the normal way.”
Sarah is an actress. She’s used to playing roles and projecting emotion. Yet for long stretches of her own adult life, she herself has been emotionally numb – unable to feel.
This is the result of a little-known mental-health condition called depersonalisation
The article included an interview with a woman who suffer from Depersonalisation disorder, more excepts from the interview with her:
“It was a sudden flick of a switch. Things felt really alien and threatening,” says Sarah.
“Suddenly your flat or somewhere that is very, very familiar to you will suddenly feel like a film set, and your possessions feel like props.”
Others have terrifying out-of-body experiences, feel like their own body parts don’t belong to them and even see the world in 2D – as if it were flat.
For Sarah, this is what happened during her second episode.
“I was reading, holding a book, and suddenly my hands looked like a picture of a pair of hands.
“I felt this separation between the physical world and my perception of it.”
You can read the full article and watch a video of the interview at : bbc.co.uk/news/health-41384979
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