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10 Tips for an Online Date Success

You did everything right, you followed the advice of your friends and from a few articles online. Your online dating profile sits before you on your laptop or phone, and it is perfect. You did adequate research and got a trustworthy website just as advised, and your picture meets all the requirements. All your best traits are highlighted in your profile, and you feel ready to conquer the online dating world.

But after a couple of dates or potential dates you never met, you feel like the online dating world has conquered you, and you are ready to give up. Hold out a little longer because the tips for the success of online dating I am going to provide below are more than the standard tips you are already familiar with.

  • State the Type of Date you would be interested in: first of all, do internal research within yourself and be sure of the kind of attributes you are looking for in a date. Secondly, your profile should convey your interest and have a positive and definite statement regarding the type of date you are interested in. This would help you weed out people that are opposed to your goals or prevent people that are in direct contradiction of the kind of date you want from texting you in the first place. Although it is important also to avoid being too rigid with the types of date you want, having a general knowledge of what you are searching for will help you save a significant amount of time and energy.
  • Read Between the Lines: A person’s profile says so much, even if it wasn’t the intention by the owner. So read in between the line. Evaluate the tone of the profile, and maybe you can get a sense of what the person is like. You might learn if the person is a fun, pleasant, kind person, or the type of person you would be quickly drawn to. It is also vital to search for any negative attributes like boastfulness. Doing this does not necessarily mean you can pick out the perfect date, but it is a start.
  • Flee the comfortability of online texting and meet physically: comfort is the enemy of progress. Don’t get too comfortable with just the exchange of flirtatious texts, and make a plan to link up. Push away any fear or nervousness that may prevent you from meeting the person with the knowledge that your date might be as nervous as you are. Fix an appointment, sit across from each other, and have an honest conversation. With this action, you can take the relationship to the next step.
  • Meet in public and on neutral territory: this is an important tip that should always guide you when venturing into the online dating world. Not only because you need to be in public or a familiar environment for safety but because you need a well-rehearsed escape routine. Yes, you read that right; the importance of an escape strategy cannot be overemphasized. When stuck in a horrible date, with no way out or instead of coming up with a farfetched or an unbelievable lie, you can bask in the fact that you have a pre-arranged plan. Pass on your believable lie to your date, stand up, and walk away from such an unpleasant encounter.
  • Read verbal and non-verbal cues Unconsciously, a person’s actual intention slips out through their words or actions, so pay attention. Read verbal and non-verbal cues. What kind of relationship does he want? Ask him and listen attentively to his answer. If his answers align with yours, great, go on and enjoy your date. If it, however, doesn’t, explain to the date maturely that you are looking for something else and waste no further time in something that cannot yield any result.    
  • Patience, the right man, might not be the first: Don’t expect too much from a first date. It may take as many dates to find someone with similar interests. You should try to know the person sitting across you by learning his likes and dislikes.

Also, there is a need to be patient and open-minded. Remember you can afford to be selective. That is the best part of online dating, and it is a large pool of varieties of options for you to choose from.  

  • Ditch the three days’ rules: if you enjoyed the date and you wish to see the person again, there is a simple solution, call them and say so. Dismiss the notion in your head that tells you to wait for three days. Instead, convey your feeling to your date; they might feel the same way. It’s ok if they don’t, at least you would be made aware of the situation and you can move forward instead of wasting your time.
  • Be yourself: Be honest from the beginning, this might seem like a cheesy tip, but most time people forget to be real. They transform themselves into this person in other to meet the requirements of their dates and end up losing themselves and their time. Show them the real you, and if they don’t like it is ok if they walk away. When they do, the closer you become in meeting the right person.
  • Keep your baggage out of the way:  you don’t want to scare your date away, so keep the conversation light and comfortable. Take it step by step, build the friendship on the foundation of a casual conversation, by dishing out your primary and straightforward traits or history. Get to know the person before you first; this is not the time to air all your proverbial laundry.
  • Listen: the purpose of the date is to get to know each other, and that can’t be done when only one person is speaking. It is easy to get carried away when telling a story that you forget you have been the only one speaking for a long time. Leave the floor also open for your date to talk. Ask questions and try to be genuinely interested in what the person has to say. Trust me your date would know if you are faking an interest.
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Dating Might Make You Healthier

You may not have realized that looking attractive and staying healthy can each be accomplished through dating. Wanting to attract a partner can be one of the strongest motivators for people to get in shape and stay that way. You can do this by eating healthier and hitting the gym on a regular basis, but it is possible that an active dating life might just be the resolution. In fact, there are studies that show many daters feel motivated to not only get into shape, but stay that way, especially when they are on the hunt for a dating partner or have been lucky enough to be in a relationship.

Some proof of this is supplied by It’s Just Lunch. This is a matchmaking firm catering to busy professionals. There is a survey called Dating, Dining, and Push-Ups that investigated the link from healthy habits and dating. They found the results to be striking. The online survey consisted of over 4,000 people replying to dozen of questions regarding their health habits and how they relate to their dating lives. Many of the people who took part in the survey felt that dating and being fit were directly linked to each other. These people felt that being in love is good for the waistline.

People who are in a committed relationship tend to avoid behavior that is unhealthy. They do this because they want to keep looking attractive. Partners in committed relationships can influence each other to stay fit and healthy. Becoming intimate with that special someone gives you a pretty good reason to remain in good shape.

When you are in a relationship, you probably have a high motivation for doing things such as going for a daily run or even do a few pushups before going to bed. At least that is what one in three people who took the Its Just Lunch survey say. Working out when they are in a romantic relationship is definitely a priority. Of course, it only follows that you want  to continue to look attractive once you are in an important relationship.

Diet is another thing that some daters feel is important. One of the things that is reported from the survey is that they eat less when they are on a first date. Coffee shops and restaurants are common venues to have a first date. That means that some eating will also be included in the date. The survey shows that women tend to eat less on a first date while fewer men eat normally when on  a first date.

Now, the survey showed that women usually do not care about how much their dates eat. That might be a deal breaker if he has no table manners, but otherwise, women do not mind. As long as the date stays in shape, men can typically eat all they want and then some.

Keep in mind that healthiness can indicate compatibility in relationships, and this includes both men and women. In fact, the answer to the survey question about whether or not they want their dating partners to match their enthusiasm for fitness was a resounding 99 percent yes. Therefore, most people want to date people who are fit.

When it comes to getting in shape so that you can get a date, a majority of singles thought that was a great idea. Dating offers people a solid reason to set and reach specific fitness goals. Your love life has an impact on your health in  several ways. Single people often say no to appetizers. Those in a committed relationship will take on a dedicated workout routine. This applies to both men and women. After all, they want to keep their partners interested in them.

The last question asked on the It’s Just Lunch survey regarding dating and health takes it a bit further. Should you get in shape before you start dating or should you start dating first, getting in shape afterward? Basically, will dating help you get healthier, or getting heathier help you get dates? Both men and women seemed to agree on the answer to this question. Approximately 72 percent of the women and 65 percent of the men felt it would be a better idea to get in shape prior to starting a search for a date.

It is important to note that daters pay attention to their appearance once they have decided to re-enter the dating scene. In spite of the fact that a person’s appearance is, sadly, very high on the list when choosing someone to date, there are many other aspects of a person that should also apply.  Actually, 93 percent of the women and 81 percent of the men who took this survey stated that the personality of someone will usually mean more than looks.

Basically, use your appearance to hook a date and your smiling personality to keep him or her coming back.